HOST SITE LOOK FOR RATING New Yorker Hotel Michael Keaton, Gene * * * Magazine Bel-Air Kelly, Emma Thompson, Gore Vidal, Steven Spielberg A week before the big night, this elegant Hollywood-meets-the-highbrows sit-down dinner for 250 is a must-do. Women Regent Angela Bassett, * * in Film Beverly Anthony Hopkins, Wilshire Winona Ryder, Marisa Tomei, Queen Latifah Promotes, well, women in film. Not the A list, but points for gender sensitivity. Vanity Fair/ Mortons Tom Cruise, Clint * * * * Steve Tisch Restaurant Eastwood, Liam Neeson, Nancy Kerrigan, Roseanne Arnold The place to be-and don’t forget to bring Oscar! Could you look again? I’m sure I’m on the list. Please? El Rescate Mondrian Susan Sarandon, * * Hotel Tim Robbins, Spike Lee, Rosie Perez, Cheech Marin Human-rights org. proves P.C. doesn’t have to be a snooze. HIP Hollywood rocks to cool bands. Can get rowdy. Elton John Maple Drive Tom Hanks, Dennis * * * Restaurant Quaid, Meg Ryan, Alec Baldwin, Whoopi Goldberg AIDS benefit was one of last year’s hot tickets. Not to be confused with competing AIDS benefit at Directors Guild. Governor’s Dorothy Anyone who has a tux. * Ball Chandler Pavilion Official post-Oscar bash-and naturally the least interesting. Most winners do a drop-by before heading off to Mortons.