In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/throwawaypayback2324 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he was set up on the date by his friends—who were also present for his departure—and explained why he felt no obligation to fork over any more cash than he already had.

Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for not paying my friend back for a blind double date?” the post has received nearly 4,000 upvotes in the last day.

“My friend and his wife have been trying to set me up with some of her friends,” OP began. “His wife really wanted me to meet this one woman and they suggested a double date because my date-to-be got anxious about meeting new guys.”

Writing that he agreed to the date, the original poster said he quickly realized there was little chemistry between the two and struggled to keep conversation going throughout the night.

The original poster also said that, once dinner was over, he split—much to the dismay of the couple who set it all up.

“Since I wasn’t feeling it I wanted to leave after we finished eating instead of continuing the night with them,” OP wrote. “I told my date it was nice to meet her, paid my bill and then left.

“Later that night I get a request from my friend for 60 bucks,” OP continued. “He said I left without paying the bill…and [my date] was left there without any money to pay for her stuff.

“His wife…said I made her look like a bad friend because she told her friend I was a stand up guy but then I left her high and dry,” OP added. “I told them both to remember they had asked me and her to go on this double date…[and] if anyone had expected me to pay then it should’ve been discussed.”

Like baby name ideas, the concept of kid-free weddings and the latest celebrity gossip, first-date etiquette is debated far and wide across the internet.

But while many first-date-related topics have been placed under the microscope, no etiquette point has sparked as many arguments as the question everybody thinks about, but nobody wants to ask—who should pay?

Despite stereotypical traditions and gendered expectations, the conversation surrounding the final bill for a first date can be boiled down to comfortability.

Last decade, women’s magazine Bustle published an extensive list of “rules” to follow on a first date, from eye contact to putting away all cell phones.

Regarding of who should pay, Bustle contributor Amanda Chatel asserted that comfort is most important, and that first-date finances should not become bitter disputes.

“If they offer to pay and you’re comfortable with that, then let them. But if you offer to pay half and they won’t let you, don’t fight about it too much just to prove you’re nice,” Chatel wrote. “Ending on an argument will leave a bad taste in both your mouths.”

Appearing just after that advice on splitting the final bill, however, is the admission that cutting a first date short is perfectly acceptable.

“Don’t be scared to cut the night short,” Chatel added. “It’s your life, your valuable time … don’t force it if you know it’s just not right for you.”

In his viral Reddit post, the original poster explained that he had failed to find a connection with his blind date, and left the double date after dinner as a result. His friend’s request for $60, to cover dinner and drinks, came as a complete surprise and according to the original poster, has yet to be resolved.

And throughout the comment section of the viral post, Redditors were both adamant that the original poster should never have been responsible for his date’s portion of the bill, and stunned that it was implied he would be paying.

“[Not the a**hole],” Redditor u/Dan_92159 wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received more than 6,500 upvotes. “I’m a woman and would never expect anyone to pay for me under those circumstances.”

“Exactly,” Redditor u/Different-Peak-8821 echoed, receiving more than 2,000 upvotes. “Blind date etiquette is vastly different to normal date etiquette.”

Redditor u/KnitStitched, whose comment has received nearly 3,000 upvotes, offered a similar response.

“What single adult goes out for dinner with no means of paying?” they questioned. “That’s ridiculous.”

“The kind you never want a second date with,” Redditor u/lotus_eater123 quipped, receiving nearly 1,000 upvotes.

In a separate comment, which has received more than 1,000 upvotes, Redditor u/Cat-catt shifted focus away from the original poster and onto the couple that orchestrated this blind double date.

“Why would you be expected to pay for someone else? You being a ‘stand up guy’ has nothing to do with you having to cover someone else’s tab,” they wrote. “And if they were expecting you to pay for a stranger they should have made sure you were ok with that BEFORE the date.”

“The matchmakers should have been gracious about paying for her meal,” Redditor u/dr_learnalot chimed in, receiving more than 1,300 upvotes. “[Not the a**hole].”

Newsweek reached out to u/throwawaypayback2324 for comment.